One of my biggest pet peeves is retailers asking me to donate or round my total up to whatever various charity they are sponsoring. I had been saying YES every single time for years. But, recently, it got me really thinking. I am a customer at their store spending my money on various items. What gives them the right to ask me for more? How do I even know what percentage of that money is really going to the charity?
I think my frustration with this practice stems from an encounter my son had at a soft pretzel shop in our local mall. He was there with a few of this friends. Since one of his most favorite things in the entire world is soft pretzels he stopped by to make a purchase. The cashier actually said “If you don’t donate to our kids with cancer cause kids will die” to him. Well, that is just horrifying to hear. Of course, he said yes as did his friends. When he came home and retold me the story I was outraged. How can anyone be okay with fear mongering children? I find it rather disgusting. We all care about children with cancer and want to help fight childhood cancer. But using scare tactics on kids can’t be the answer.
So, a few days ago during my holiday shopping, when I was asked again I replied “I already did before” even though I had not donated any $$$ in that store previously. Moments later, I realized what just happened. Since I couldn’t find the courage to directly say NO I have chosen to lie. So somehow in my mind lying to these complete strangers was easier than just saying NO. Why was I put in this situation?
This makes me wonder. They do this because they know that you are in a hurry and you will most likely to be embarrassed to say NO at the register with people behind you?
I appreciate the social work charities do and the need that they fill. But I would like to be in the position to choose who I give money to without feeling intimidated or guilty.
I will continue to do my part by making donations to the charities of our choice. But I will not make forced donations anymore.
Were there times when you have felt obligated or guilted into donating money?
Merry Christmas everyone! ???