He went through different rooms asking what all he could get rid of. I went into full blown internal panic mode. I like my stuff. I don’t want to get rid of any of it. I have been saving that because I know I will need it some day. I’m not a hoarder or anything but to put it simply…. I like stuff. I need stuff. Stuff makes me happy…. Or does it???
I did some soul searching and thought about my life. Everything that came to me was a moment in time not a physical item. At no point did I reflect back on how happy that designer purse made me. What I remembered about that day was having a girls day out shopping and how much fun we had. We went to two different malls, two different stops for coffee to fuel our power shopping and a nice big dinner at the end of the day. I would have had the same memories without making that expensive purchase. So how do we separate ourselves from associating happiness with objects and finding the happiness in life?
I am not sure I have the answers to that question. But I know what I am going to do. I am going to focus on the joy of getting together with friends. Yes, I will always look forward to our annual shopping day but mostly because I get to spend a kid-free day with the best gal pals around and I am so lucky to have these fabulous ladies in my life. We try on clothes, some outrageous just for laughs and some serious choices. It’s one of my favorite days of the year.
I am not sure I can totally embrace Mr DailyGrindFree’s new minimalism lifestyle but I am coming around. He is patient with me which I really appreciate. I think I will just consider myself a work in progress on this idea. I am taking baby steps. My first big step is starting now. I am going to attempt a no shopping ban and not buy myself any clothes for the rest of the year. I read about Cait Flanders shopping ban on her blog and she is quite impressive! She started with a one year ban and she is still going strong. To some of you it may sound easy peasy to not buy clothes, shoes or purses but for me it will be very difficult. Since I am an avid outdoor exerciser, I will throw an exception to the ban that if I need new running shoes I will allow myself to purchase them. I have a new pair that I started wearing last month so they should last me through this year. But I refuse to have pains due to shoes. That is it. Running shoes are my only exception. I will throw in updates on my ban every few weeks.?
If you have tried a spending ban I would love to hear from you. Please comment and let me know how it worked out for you.